- Parents: Speak to the Religious School Director or any member of the Clergy Team about any special learning needs your child may have
- Family: Join us for Shabbat services, both Friday evenings and Saturday mornings – the more often you are able to attend, the more familiar you will be with the various pieces of the service you yourself will facilitate for the congregation on your big day.
1-2 years out:
- Family: Choose your date (you will receive a date request form from the religious school office at the conclusion of your child’s “bet” year).
- Family: Once you have your date, read through the English of your Torah and haftarah portions and see what they’re all about.
- Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Soak up everything you can during religious school, especially when learning the various prayers and the trope systems; they’ll come in handy later!
- Parents: Attend b’nai mitzvah orientation
- Family: Begin thinking about potential mitzvah projects. Check out the Mitzvah Project page for guidance.
Beginning 9 months out:
- (t-9 months) Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Run through the prayers of the service with Cantor and create an individualized study plan.
- (t-6 months) Family: If you are using the TAS Social Hall to celebrate after the ceremony, be sure the deposit is paid no later than six (6) months prior to the ceremony to ensure you do not lose the venue space. Click here to read the Right of First Refusal policy.
- (t-5 months) Family: Meet with the Cantor for a conversation about what it means to become a Bar/Bat Mitzvah.
- (t-5 months) Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Begin working with Cantor on chanting your Torah portion.
- (t-4 months) Family: Meet with the Rabbi to discuss the themes of the torah portion and to brainstorm an idea of what the Bar/Bat Mitzvah will teach the congregation about in his/her D’var Torah.
- (t-2-3 months) Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Review entire service with Cantor.
- (t-1-2 months) Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Meet with the Rabbi to practice and improve your D’var Torah.
Two weeks before:
- Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Meet with Cantor to practice chanting from the actual Torah scroll.
- Parents: Return the honors sheet to the clergy assistant in the TAS Main Office.
- Family: Run through the service in the sanctuary with the Rabbi.
- Family: Show up! Lead the congregation in Candlelighting/Kiddush! Be awesome!
- Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Participate in service (specifically the candle blessing, kiddush, and V’ahavta and/or Amidah)
- Be in the sanctuary 45 minutes prior to the service.
The next day:
- Sleep in.
And after that?
- Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Make sure you write thank you notes.
- Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Join us beginning in 8th at TAS High.
- Bar/Bat Mitzvah: Begin your NFTY career by getting involved with TASTY, TAS’s youth group.
- Family: Keep coming to Shabbat services!
- Parents: Continue to think about meaningful ways for YOU to be involved at TAS.